What to Consider When Wording a Wedding Invitation

Whether your beloved has just proposed or you’re currently in the midst of wedding planning preparations, one thing you’ll need to consider sooner or later is the wedding invitations, or, more specifically, how you are going to word them.

Depending on the type of ceremony you choose, you’ll want to pay careful attention to the wording of the invitation. It could be that you’re having a traditional church ceremony, in which case you’ll get away with a more formal script. However, if you’re planning to get hitched on the beach, a formal worded invitation may not fit in with the overall wedding theme. To help you make that choice, here is what to consider when wording a wedding invitation.


Include important details

Regardless of how you choose to word your invitations, there are some bits of information that are essential for any invitation.

  • Names of the bride’s parents or the hosts
  • Bride’s first name
  • Both first and surname of the bridegroom and his title (Mr/Dr/Sir)
  • Where the wedding will be held
  • Date, month and year of the ceremony
  • Wedding reception location
  • Rsvp date and address

Traditional wording

So now you have a good idea about the essential content, how do you go about phrasing it? Here is an idea for a traditional ceremony.

For a traditional wedding, the invitation should come from the bride’s parents or the hosts. This is because in the past it was customary for the bride’s parents to pay for the wedding. While this is no longer practised by the majority of wedding couples, some still prefer to stick to tradition when wording the invitation. A formal “Mr and Mrs ________ request the honour of your presence at the marriage of _______” is enough to signify that the wedding will likely be held in a church or at a fancy stately home.

Contemporary wording

As discussed above, it is unusual nowadays for the bride’s parents to pay for the wedding, which means that the majority of preparations and spending will be done by the couple-to-be. In that case, you may prefer to send the invitation from yourselves. This can still take formal and traditional wording, “Jane Green and Tom Smith request the pleasure of your company at their marriage”. However, if you’re uncomfortable with formal wording or feel that it doesn’t match the theme of your wedding, you may prefer a simpler “You are invited to the marriage of Jane Green and Tom Smith”.

Informal style

Now we’ve covered the formalities, let’s move on to a more informal style of wording. After all, there are no strict rules about where a wedding should take place. Many couples nowadays enjoy jetting off to some idyllic beach and having a simple ceremony with family and close friends only. If this is you then any formal wording may sound too stuffy against your beachy backdrop. In that case try, “Jane Green and Tom Smith are getting married! We’d love it if you joined us on the day”.

However you choose to word your invitations, remember that it has to reflect both your personalities as well as the style of the wedding. If you’re still unsure, get some mock ups made with different phrasing and ask your chief bridesmaid which one she prefers.